Black Men White Women: 8 Reasons Sisters Push Bros to Pink Toes Part I

Aug 28, 2011 by Black Statham

I see so many interracial couples on a daily basis that I rarely even take a second glance in the couple’s general direction. I mean don’t get me wrong depending on where you live, people of both races may still feel some kind of way about single black men and white women together. And there is one segment of society that still has an almost visceral reaction to seeing an eligible brother dating a Becky, and that of course would be our single black sisters.

When a sister spots a black man with a white woman, she’s likely to pull out her book of descriptive adjectives labeling the brother as weak, a sellout, or unable to deal with a strong willful sister. However we know that the reasons that men and women find certain types of the opposite sex attractive are never that cut and dry, or black and white. In such quick labeling also fails to take into account the role that the accuser has in influencing the choices that a man will make him picking his potential mate.

So I was chilling out with the Hon. Dr. Royce Brothers sipping a little something vintage, we started talking about the reasons black men choose white women and decided to break it up into a two-part series, which will provide all interested parties with a look into the psyche of interracial dating from the black male perspective.

1.       Approachability:  From Frown To Scowl

I mean it’s sad to say and many women will disagree with me on this point, but no one wears a frown quite like a black woman in any public setting. Either the lips are poked out or pursed so tight that you could crush atoms with them things. And understand that there is a level of defensiveness that’s necessary in dealing with brothers that are let’s say less than mature.

Now on the other hand white women are totally different ballgame, easy to have conversation with and rarely assuming that because you say hi to them you’re trying hit those draws. No man wants to approach a woman who looks as if she’s dreading the first word coming out of your mouth. There are times is a single black man that you would rather try to sell Kirby vacuum cleaners door-to-door, then approach a sister in any social situation.

2.       Black Men Ain’t Sh*t!

Why women who are interested in black men seem to approach a potential relationship with a clean slate. What exactly do I mean by this? It’s simple, white women were raised to believe that “black men ain’t sh*t” in regards to how they perform their life duties as a man.

Black women grow up witnessing the failures and shortcomings of fathers who come and go, unhealthy relationships that their elders may go through, all of which create a master image of what a black man is. Undoubtedly this is a hard thing to shake as you enter your adult life and attempt to form relationships. Sadly this doesn’t alleviate the constant frustration that some black men feel and having to prove themselves over and over again that they are potentially worthy lifetime partner for single black women.

3.       The Over 40 Collapse:  Sista’s Lookin’ Busted Down

In the Desperate Housewives era white women over the age of 40 are taking care of themselves like never before. These women are taking care of themselves by hitting the gym on a regular basis, making sure their hair and nails are done, they have great looking wardrobes and seem to be conscious of their appearance whenever they’re in public. As a single woman with you step out in public you should look at it as an opportunity to meet your soul mate, and your appearance should be as attractive as possible at all times.

I don’t know what it is but in the last 10 years it seems that middle-age black women don’t take as much pride in their appearance as they did in the past. The hair is not done, the tennis shoes are leaning to the side, there seems to be no desire to maintain a fit and healthy physical form.

4.       Worldly Cluelessness

I’m a grown ass man so when I meet a woman and we go out on a date she needs to be able to hold a conversation that goes beyond the latest celebrity gossip on Concreteloop, Bossip, and Media Takeout.  No brotha wants to go out with a 30 year old woman whose only concern in current events is who Chris Brown is dating.  Chris Brown?  Really?  I’m not asking for you to be a news anchor, but damn be able to engage in some type of stimulating conversation.

Well that’s it for part one and I hope this will spark some lively conversation.  Part II we’ll probably bring a shit storm down on this site…and I can’t wait.